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My Whole Life is Going to be Busy…

Ironically, I began this post two weeks ago…I should’ve known!  Every day is full of busyness and guess what…every day for the rest of your life will be filled with busyness!  It just cannot be an excuse any longer.  We will always be busy with something ~ even if that “something” is doing nothing.

I know that I make plenty of excuses as to why things don’t get done.  I also realize that there are times when I really need to get things done and accomplish specific tasks, but I can’t do them in a timely manner because I’m still dealing with something that should have been taken care days (or months) beforehand. Time just gets away from me and I’m sure you have experienced this too.

The times I feel the worst about being “too busy” is when I have not scheduled things in my day appropriately and the consequences are usually ones that my family has to pay.  Dinner is not ready at a decent hour.  Dishes are piled high in the sink for the third day in a row.  I’m late picking someone up, or dropping them off.  And the consequence I deal with the most is staying up far too late to finish up a bunch of little tasks that I could have done during the day so that I could go to bed early and stay healthy.

But this blog isn’t about all the “shoulda woulda coulda’s” in our life; and it certainly isn’t intended to bring on guilt.  We all do that to ourselves far too easily anyway!

My hearts desire is to encourage you to take a step back, breathe in deep, and know that through all the busyness of life there are ways to create space.  The Lord has been giving me great ideas on how to do this and I want to share them with you.

Now, if you have little ones and you’re reading this…trust me, I remember those days and sometimes your day (or your week!) just buzzes by in a blur and you realize you’ve been wearing the same clothes for a few days and can’t remember the last time you washed your hair.  But it’s all worth it when you look back and see all that you did for your kiddos.  You being present with them, reading a book or playing a game, just being WITH them is way more important that what you have on or what your hair looks like.  There are still ways to find those “spaces” in your day, so hang in there.  They look completely different than that of someone who doesn’t have little ones at home, and it’s supposed to.

Sometimes that “breathing space” is all in our head…and in a great way!  Romans 8:5-6 (NLT) says, “Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit.  So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace.”  

Simply by filling our mind with the Word of God and allowing the Holy Spirit to guide our thought processes (ie…how we manage our time and daily tasks), then we will have peace.  Notice that this doesn’t say we will have perfection.  It means that we will be able to deal with all the craziness of life in a peaceful way.  It means that when we need to speak into a situation, we can speak life instead of death.  What I mean by this is that we can be encouraging instead of nagging to our children when they need to pick up their toys, or their disaster zone rooms.  We can peacefully find ways to let them know how important it is to pay attention to what you are asking of them instead of knee-jerk reactions of hollering at them to just get it done.

So if we are too fill our minds with scripture to draw from when we need, how are we to accomplish this?  Life is just so busy!

Here’s the best answer ~ our God is an incredibly creative God and He created you perfectly so He has the exact answer for YOU!  Ask Him to give you ideas that will blend in with your family activities and with your particular daily tasks.

Let’s face it though, it’s super easy to find time to scroll through social media or even sit and read a few blogs (thank you by the way!).  I’m right there with ya!

I want to encourage you to find what works for YOU!  One of the greatest benefits you will recieve is that the more time you spend with the Lord, the more time you will WANT to spend with Him.  The more you are filled up, the more you can pour out to others and then run back to the arms of your loving Father who will gladly fill you up again and again and again!

HE WILL NEVER EVER RUN OUT OF WHAT YOU NEED TO BE FILLED!!  EVER!!

Acts 2:25-28 (ESV) remind us what King David penned in the Old Testament, For David says concerning him,“‘I saw the Lord always before me, for he is at my right hand that I may not be shaken; therefore my heart was glad, and my tongue rejoiced; my flesh also will dwell in hope. For you will not abandon my soul to Hades, or let your Holy One see corruption. You have made known to me the paths of life; you will make me full of gladness with your presence.’”

So…ideas…here’s a few that I will be implementing into my new schedule.  Take a peek and see what might work for you, or how you can tweak it to work in your schedule.

* After dropping off the kiddos at school, make a quick pit stop at a local coffee shop or park with the express intention of reading through your devotional…and NOT to meet up with a girlfriend, at least until after you have had your time with the Lord.

* Put your devotional time in your calendar to make sure you don’t over-schedule your day.

* If you have to sit in car-line (not gonna lie…super glad that part of my day is over!) go EARLY!  Take your Bible, devotional, or whatever study you are going through with you and work on it in the car for a bit without any distractions.

* Wake up earlier ~ I don’t like this one, but I know for me that God is asking me to give Him more of day and for me it means to wake up an hour early.  It’s gonna be a struggle for the first few days, but I’m committed to getting back to this. {As I write this, my last daughter is a Senior in high school and drives herself to school, so my “early” is probably a regular time for y’all}.

* While you are driving in the car instead of listening to the radio, take that time to pray to the Lord ~ share your day with Him…what you are doing, where you are going, how you would like direction for the tasks ahead.  Or listen to some praise music and allow the Holy Spirit to flood your soul with uplifting songs.

* As you sit down to the computer or to watch your favorite DVR’d TV show, ask yourself if you have spent time with the Lord yet.  If you haven’t, take that moment to read some scripture and pray.  And if you don’t know what to pray, pray aloud the scripture you were going to read.  And if you’re really stuck, look at the date on the calendar and find the chapter in Proverbs that has the same number and pray the verses you read.  I promise that even if you physically don’t feel refreshed, the Holy Spirit will refresh and renew your mind.  Scripture NEVER leaves you empty ~ it will always fill you up!

* While you wash dishes, do the laundry, finish up housework ~ you can spend time with the Lord too!  Thank Him that you have a home to care for and a family to fill it up.  And when you’re done, thank Him that you had the energy to accomplish all that you did.

Cheesy or not, there’s just a few to get started with and I bet the Lord is giving you great ideas already how to combat the busyness of life with the calmness of His Word.  I’d love to hear from you to see how God is working in your life to bring you peace and life.

I will always be busy.  You will always be busy.  That busyness will look different in everyone’s life ~ stop comparing yourself to others.  Allowing the Holy Spirit to sway your life in the direction of spending time with the Father will always result in the same thing ~ a life of peace and calm that will help you in your time of need as well as in the moments when you are needed by others.

When you hold the empty cup of your day to be filled with the everlasting joy and strength of the Lord, you will be filled to overflowing…and that’s a promise!

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Blessings,

René

 

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I want to…but I just can’t!

How many times have you said this phrase….”I want to, but I just can’t!”  Whether it was to a friend who wants to meet for coffee, a meeting that you’ve been asked to attend, to keep to your new daily planner schedule, or to exercise and eat more healthy; or just say “no” to an amazing dessert…like big slab of homemade chocolate cake with chocolate orange filling and chocolate hazelnut icing with chopped hazelnuts on top?

** Okay…that last part…seriously was the best piece of cake I think I’ve had in a very long time…and shouldn’t have again for a VERY LONG TIME!! **

But I digress…..

So, what made me think of this title and idea for today’s blog?  It was actually from something I saw in a facebook post by someone on a weight loss journey.  They’ve been plagued by failure for years, losing every weight loss battle because she realized that she had the mindset of “I want to eat that, but I can’t have it.”  She was constantly in a state of negativity.  Then she changed a few words around and now feels like she has a handle on the journey ahead….

“I can have that, I just choose not to.”

What a concept!  I tried finding her posting again to give her credit and alas, I could not…but whoever you are ~ thank you!

Instead of looking at the dessert portion on a menu or the table full of sweets at a party, and saying, “I want that dessert but I just can’t…I’m being good.”  I can say, “I can have that dessert but I am choosing not to so I can be healthy today.” My attitude goes from a place of negativity to a place of positive thinking.  That little shift can make all the difference in how we view ourselves and the world around us.

Honestly, satan wants us to continue coming from a place of negativity so that he can veil our mind and heart away from thinking in a way that is pleasing to the Lord; to keep us from acting in such a way that is honoring to Him and giving God glory.

So how can we live from a place of positivity ~ and not be sucked into what the world calls “positive thinking.”? I think the best way we can do this is learn and know who we are and what we are called to be by the Lord.  We are created in His image, so all that He has for us is good.  He does not guarantee a perfect life and does not expect us to be perfect, but He does require obedience.  There are no tricks we have to resort to in order to follow what the Word says.  And when we don’t know what to do, we can call on the Lord at any moment and ask for His help and guidance.

Psalm 118:5-6 HCSB, “I called to the Lord in distress; the Lord answered me and put me in a spacious place. The Lord is for me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?”

I read this list in a book* recently and think it is an absolutely fantastic way to remind our self who we are and Who we belong to.  I’m going to write it below exactly how it is in the book, but I would love to challenge you to do something after you read through it once.  Read it again, out loud, and replace “I” with your name.  Personalize it as much as you can to make an imprint on your heart and mind about who you really are!  Come on…let’s do this!

I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalm 139:14)

I am being renewed daily. (2 Corinthians 4:16)

I am the righteousness of God. (2 Corinthians 5:21)

I am created to be the reflection of His glory. (Ephesians 1:12)

I am exalted to the right hand of God the Father Almighty, a joint heir to the kingdom of God with Jesus Christ. (Romans 8:17)

I am forgiven. (Colossians 1:13-14)

I am a new creature. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

I am led by the spirit of God. (Romans 8:14)

I am strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. (Ephesians 6;10)

I am above only and not beneath. (Deuteronomy 28:13)

I am more than a conqueror. (Romans 8:37)

I am an overcomer by the blood of the Lamb and the word of my testimony. (Revelations 12:11)

I am able to do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)

I am casting all my cares upon Jesus. (1 Peter 5:7)

I am blessed coming in and going out. (Deuteronomy 28:6)

I am an overcomer. (1 John 5:4)

I am blessed. (Ephesians 1:3)

I am called by God. (Romans 8:28)

I am provided for all things by God. (Philippians 4:19)

This is not a bunch of magic words to say and then we’ll feel better.  These are promises from God’s Word about who we are.  But He wants us to be actively participating in seeking Him.  We aren’t meant to sit around waiting for things to happen.  If we are truly seeking Him, we will be alert to the subtle ways God tries to get our attention.  Sometimes those ways are pretty straightforward, but our Heavenly Father is not about the business of bopping us on the head.  Even in trials we can find Him and experience peace.

John 14:27“Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Your heart must not be troubled or fearful.”

As you move forward in your day, be filled with peace, positive that God is for you and not against you.  That He has good plans for your life. Whatever you choose to do, choose it because you want to glorify Him.  Whatever you choose not to do, choose in order to honor the Lord in your actions.  Both of these directions will bring you good and will cause you to grow closer to the Lord in your relationship with Him.  The more intimately you understand what God wants for you, you will in turn want those same things.

You CAN do just about anything ~ but are you doing what the Lord has asked of you?  

You can WANT just about anything ~ but are you wanting what the Lord has for you?

Blessings,

    René

2 Corinthians 5 verse 17

*Seymour, Rick. “Chapter 12.” God In Your Goals: Reconciling Your Spiritual Walk with ‘success’ in the World. San Bernadino: Rick Seymour, 2015. 100-01. Print.