Christian Mentors, Moms, Parents, Stay at Home Moms, Women's Ministries

The Power of Words

As soon as I chose the title for today’s blog, I can’t get the Huey Lewis & the News song “That’s the Power of Love” song out of my head.  It doesn’t relate to the topic, well, not really…but it’s catchy and you just can’t get those 80’s songs out of your brain!!  Now that I’ve talked about the song, I can move on…you are now welcome that the song is now stuck in your brain!  You’re welcome. 🙂

The Power of Words ~ more than we realize sometimes.  With our words we can: heal, hurt, comfort, proclaim, defend, defy, build-up, gossip, love, hate, encourage, deny, etc.  So much power that we have and so many times so little consideration of what comes out of our mouth.  When I was a teenager, my mom would sometimes say to me, “Honey, just because you think of something, that doesn’t mean it needs to come out of your mouth.”  And yes, I’ve used that on my own daughters’….good times!  It’s true though isn’t it?  When my girls were little and learning how to talk, oh how frustrating it could be for them.   I could see the determination in their little faces trying desperately to explain something to me or ask me for something.  When it was clear that I wasn’t getting it, I would say to them, “Can you show Mommy?”  Or better yet, when they were having a fit about something, I would try to get their attention and tell them, “Use your words.” As an adult how many times have you said something and as the words are pouring out of your mouth (usually at a very rapid pace) you suddenly have an out of body experience and wish we could gather those words and take them back!  I know I have…but you can’t take them back.

And I really can’t stand that silly adage of “Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me.”  What?  Whoever thought of that…ugh!  Really?!?  There are opportunities that we have every day to either build-up or tear down someone with the words we speak to them.

WORDS CAN ABSOLUTELY HURT!

I love how James 1:17 reminds us that, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”  EVERY gift ~ not just some of them, but every single gift that comes from God, is GOOD!  And what does satan want to do with everything that is good…he wants to turn into something vile and disgusting that brings death and defiance.  So of course, because God’s Word is so good, the enemy uses words to ignite issues between churches, family members, and friends alike.  The more satan can use words to harm, the more he thinks he has won.  But he hasn’t.  We allow him to creep in to our attitudes and develop pride about something, say things we can’t take back and then we are left with the mess to clean up…and satan is standing by laughing.  The great news is that we don’t have to clean up the mess alone!  God is there and His Word is there to guide us every step of the way back to unity in the Body of Christ, with our family and with our friends.  The words, “I forgive you.” are some of the most powerful words in our vocabulary!  Use them!!

The first words to be spoken, we read about in Genesis 1:3 “And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.”  God, our Heavenly Father, the Creator of the Universe, could have used ANY means to create this world we live in.  He could have snapped His fingers, He could have just thought it into existence.  But He chose to express with His Words what He wanted to create.  He SPOKE creation into reality.  In Genesis chapters 1 & 2, this phrase is used 12 times during the creation story. There are over 100 times throughout the rest of scripture that God spoke to His people about their life, their blessings they would recieve, or the discipline they would recieve because of their sin.

Take a moment to read this beautiful portion of the passage in Psalm 119:97-108,

“Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long. Your commands are always with me and make me wiser than my enemies. I have more insight than all my teachers, for I meditate on your statutes. I have more understanding than the elders, for I obey your precepts. I have kept my feet from every evil path so that I might obey your word. I have not departed from your laws, for you yourself have taught me. How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path. Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path. I have taken an oath and confirmed it, that I will follow your righteous laws. I have suffered much; preserve my life, Lord, according to your word. Accept, Lord, the willing praise of my mouth, and teach me your laws.”

These are exquisite words that paint such a lovely picture of what it means to love God’s Word.  King David of the Old Testament penned these words as they flowed from Holy Spirit inspiration, to teach all those going ahead of him of the magnitude importance it is to keep God’s laws (His Words) in our heart, in our mind, and on our tongues.  When we learn and obey what God has told us, we will have peace in knowing we are living rightly before Him.  There is no where in this passage (or any other part of the Bible for that matter) that promises us a perfect & easy life if just follow how God says to live.  Nope.  It ain’t in there.  But He does promise us that He will never leave us nor forsake us, (Deuteronomy 31:6,8).  His Words are true…His promises are true…His laws are true and they are good.

Another part I love from the Psalms passage is, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Did you catch that?  It’s not 10,000 candle power search light that illumines our path.  It is a lamp.  A simple lamp with a simple light whose wattage is perfectly suited for the path that we are on.  If we could see what was out 10 blocks in front of us, we wouldn’t need to depend too much on the light that was right in front of us.  This analogy of the lamp shows us how we must be dependent on the Lord for every single step we take.  This is not because God wants to be an overbearing, angry guide who doesn’t want us to be prepared for what is coming.  He wants to lead us down the path He has carved out for us that will be most beneficial for us.  Does that path always make sense?  No, it does not.  But it will all eventually be seen as a blessing and as an example of God’s faithfulness in our life.  Sometimes when we feel like we are in a dark place, it is frankly because we have walked away from the protection of the Lord due to the unconfessed sin in our life.  And sometimes that dark place is when God is covering us, to protect us from something far worse.  In any case, we have to rely on the light of God’s Word to show us where to go.

Psalm 57:1 “Have mercy on me, my God, have mercy on me, for in you I take refuge. I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings until the disaster has passed.”

These words I have shared with you are not meant to bring about frustration ~ they truly are meant to be an encrouagement to you.  Life isn’t easy and we don’t have all the answers.  You may be going through circumstances that are extremely painful and confusing and you are wondering where God is in all of it.  In those moments, and probably at a time when the last thing you really want to do is read your Bible or pray, that’s when you need Him the most.  When you don’t have the words to speak the Father in pray, you don’t have to say a word because our Comforter, the Holy Spirit can go before the throne of God and intercede on our behalf.  I have had several occasions in my life where there just weren’t any words that would come out of my mouth because the pain in my heart was just too great.  From my own life I can tell you, that through those unspoken sobs that come up from your toes, God hears them and He understands them.  If you are able to talk with someone about whatever it is that is going on in your life right now, please talk to them.  Use your words to express your emotions.  If you don’t have a confidante, pray and ask the Lord to help you find one and He will.

Psalm 33:4 “For the word of the Lord is right and true; he is faithful in all he does.”
Be watchful of the words you speak just as much as you are mindful of the words you think.  Even if the words have truth to them, they may not need to be spoken right when you think they need to be.  Use your words to inquire of the Lord as to the right timing and the gracious way you need to deliver them.  The intentions of our words need to rooted in God’s love so that they will produce growth in the one to whom we are speaking.  Quick harsh words can last a lifetime if we are not careful.  All of this…I say as an encouragement to you and to me as well.  Every day I have to remember to have gracious words and wise timing.  I don’t always succeed, but seeking forgiveness from those I’ve hurt and from the Lord are always in order.  Don’t let pride stand in your way if you have someone you need to apologize to.  You may not have meant to hurt them, but it happened.  Kick satan back where he belongs, and allow God to light a new path of reconciliation.

Words.

Spoken and silent.

Words carry Power.

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Blessings,

René

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Operate out of Covenant, not Feelings

“I don’t want to!” ~ “I’ll do it myself!” ~ “That’s not fair!” ~ “How come?” ~ “Why?”

If you have ever dealt with a toddler, or a teenager, or had your very own little tantrum with the Lord, you’ve heard these phrases before.  These are all-too-common things we say when we are operating out of our feelings.  When we are honest with ourselves, if we only operate out of feelings, we wouldn’t get anything productive done.  Quite frankly, we would have lives full of mess after mess with no clean up on the horizon.

I don’t always feel like doing the family laundry – but I know we all enjoy wearing clean clothes.

I don’t always feel like going grocery shopping – but I know my family appreciates a home cooked meal instead of a bowl of cold cereal for dinner!

I don’t always feel like being kind to myself – but I know when I do, I am setting a better example to my daughters to treat themselves respectfully.

I don’t always feel like making the time to read my Bible and devotions, but I know that my day will be far better organized when I first set my mind on Him.

I’m sure you can fill in the blank here with many, many more examples.  When I operate out of a covenant of love towards my family, myself, and most importantly the Lord, I can set aside the stubborn “feelings” of apathy.

A covenant is “an agreement between two or more persons to do or not do something specified; a solemn agreement to act together in harmony; to pledge.” (www.dictionary.com)

Speaking of covenant and what it means on a personal note, my husband Tony and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary this past July.

T.W.E.N.T.Y.F.I.V.E.  YEARS!

It is a magnificent accomplishment but not because of what we have done on our own, but what we promised to each other all those years ago, standing in front of family and friends ~ to keep Christ as the very center of our lives, our marriage, and our family.  In essence, we “made a solemn agreement to act together in harmony” ~ and when harmony has been out of tune, we always knew Who to go to in order to get back on track! To honor this celebration, we renewed our vows, our covenant to each other in a surprise ceremony in our backyard.  Those marriage vows mean so much more now that when we first said them.  We know from where we have come and we know that the future that is sprawling out ahead of us is certain to be a breathtaking ride of a Christ-centered life.

Psalm 105:8, 42-45 “He remembers his covenant forever, the promise he made, for a thousand generations,”  – “For he remembered his holy promise given to his servant Abraham.  He brought out his people with rejoicing, his chosen ones with shouts of joy; he gave them the lands of the nations, and they fell heir to what others had toiled for — that they might keep his precepts and observe his laws. Praise the Lord.”

God…Keeps…His…Promises!

There are over 330 verses that speak to the concept of ‘covenant’ all throughout God’s Word.  God made covenants with Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob; Moses, King David, King Solomon, with His Son….and with YOU!  That’s right!!  If they existed, and you could take a peek at the “Covenant Journals” of God, you would find your name included.  What we do have proof of, is that He has given us His Word as one big ‘journal’ of the covenant He has made with us!

In scripture, we see time and again how people didn’t believe or fully trust in God’s covenant with them, and we make the same mistake today.

Hebrews 9:15 declares, “For this reason Christ is the mediator of a new covenant, that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance – now that He has died as a ransom to set them free from the sins committed under the first covenant.”

Had Jesus acted from a place of ‘feelings’ and not from within an attitude of ‘covenant’, we would be a lost people forever.  The Lord is gracious to show us the beauty of dealing with difficult feelings yet outwardly moving in covenant. He was in partnership with the Father.

Luke 22:41-44 shows us this beautiful picture ~ “He withdrew about a stone’s throw beyond them, knelt down and prayed, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him.  And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground.”

Jesus had a choice!  Covenant or Feelings!

Don’t miss some very important clues in these verses above, as to HOW He accomplished this.  The only part that Jesus did on His own, was to kneel down and pray.  The strength He found was given to Him by a ministering angel and by trusting no matter what, His Father had the best in mind for Him.  We can learn so much here!  We need not wait until “all else has failed” to fall down on our knees in prayer.  Let’s START with that and watch the pieces fall into place down the path that the Lord has intended for us to take.

In this day and age, we are a society of people who don’t know how to stay in covenant with each other and many times take the easy path rather than staying in the course.  As Christians, we must choose between remaining in covenant relationship with the Lord, or stepping outside of His protection and going our own way.

We don’t feel like going to work, so we call in sick.

We don’t feel like we love our spouse, so we site “irreconcilable differences.” 

We don’t feel like being a ‘whistle-blower’, so we allow illegal work practices to happen in front of us.

We don’t feel like we are being “productive enough” as a stay-at-home mom, so we seek outside attention in various forms.

Before you log off and think I’ve lost my sanity and practicality (or my understanding) because of what you just read ~ please hang in there with me.

There are always two sides to the situation.  I have friends and family who have dealt with, and who are currently dealing with, serious emotional and mental health issues.  These are REAL FEELINGS due to some kind of severe trauma experienced at some point in their life. Anxiety.  Depression.  Bi-Polar Disorder. Schizophrenia.  These and other situations like this, are real and I do not discount any of the feelings that go along with it.

What I do know, is that these are not labels that have to define who you are.  The identity of who you are is in the fact that you are a child of God, created in His image.  **If you are in doubt of this, or don’t know what I’m really talking about, I would love to help you pray as you ask Jesus Christ to forgive you of your sins, to become your Savior and Lord of your life. Please feel free to message me.**

Remember in the passage in Luke 22, Jesus “sweated drops like blood” ~ I would venture to say, in my basic theological perspective, that He was under a tremendous amount of anxiety to have produced such an intense physical reaction.

If you are experiencing extreme emotions and don’t quite “feel like yourself,” please give yourself the gift of seeing a counselor, your Pastor at church, or your doctor.  God has blessed these professionals with the ability to give you the help you need.  I will be praying too that as you read these words you will allow yourself to be freed from the lie of the enemy that you are in this life alone ~ YOU ARE NOT!

As you name the Name of Jesus as the Lord of your life, you have been given so many gifts that can never be taken away…

  • You are a friend of God (James 2:23)
  • He calls you by name (Psalm 91:14 and Isaiah 43:7)
  • You are never alone (Psalm 71:12)
  • The Holy Spirit dwells in you (Acts 15:8)
  • You have the gift of eternal life (Romans 6:23 and John 3:16-17)
  • We can call on Jesus name personally (Psalm 116:4)

Can I get an Amen!  Come on…say it…SHOUT it out loud ~ HALLELUJAH!!

Today, right now and every day, you can choose to live and operate out of covenant or out of feelings.  When living in the moment of feelings, ask yourself “How’s that working out for ya?” Take a breath, spend some time in prayer with your heavenly Father who loves you so very much, and start again.  There is a tremendous amount of LIFE that our Lord wants us to live ~ family to cherish, friends to support, and neighbors to encourage.  All of this can be done as we live an outward life of covenant with the Creator of the Universe.  What a blessings and a privilege to walk with the Alpha and Omega.  He knows my name ~ and He knows your name too!

Blessings,

Rene’

**Scripture references below**

  • James 2:23And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend.”
  • Psalm 91:14 “Because heloves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.”
  • Isaiah 43:7 “everyone who is called by my name, whom I createdfor my glory, whom I formed and made.”
  • Psalm 71:12 “Do not be farfrom me, my God; come quickly, God, to help ”
  • Acts 15:8God, who knows the heart,showed that he accepted them by giving the Holy Spirit to them, just as he did to us.”
  • Romans 6:23For the wages of sin is death,but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
  • John 3:16-17 “For God so lovedthe world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
  • Psalm 116:4 “Then I called on the nameof the Lord: Lord, save me!”

 

Blessings,

Rene’